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me: *whenever I think up a sad headcanon* oh boy i can't wait to destroy my friends with this
It makes me angry that I have to do this, but I’m going to do it anyway. Last week at Denver Comic Con, I went to a panel on women and body image in comics that I had very high hopes for. It was modded by the same woman who’d modded the very excellent Geek Girl panel earlier that day, and had two of the same panelists, but it was absolutely ruined by the actions of one man. I forgot his name because, quite honestly, I started calling him Douchey McFuckface about two minutes into the panel, but I got it from the mod through Twitter. It’s Andrew Mark of Legacy Action Comics, and his Twitter can be found here at https://twitter.com/LegacyAC. I would not normally do this, but this man, over the course of the panel:
*Asked the audience who thought women in comics were objectified, and when the entire audience raised their hands, said “Are you fucking stupid?”
*Justified the hypersexualized portrayal of women in comic books with “Artists just draw what writers give them, it’s the writer’s fault”
*Cut off a professor of media studies in mid-sentence when she tried to point out that yes, there is a connection between media and body image
*Insisted that men and women were equally objectified in comics because Superman has underwear on the outside of his costume
*Interrupted an audience member who was asking a question to talk about how “fucking hilarious” the Hawkeye Initiative is after it was explained by another audience member
*Browsed on his phone during the panel, ignoring audience questions entirely
*When I tried to explain the difference between attraction and objectification, responded by saying inequalities in objectification were clearly women’s fault, because women need to objectify men more
*Glared at and refused to answer an audience member after he tried to defend not drawing muscles on women by saying “we don’t have time for that” and she quite reasonably asked why, then, he had time to draw muscles on men
*Asked the audience if they “know comics aren’t real, right?”
*And, as a capper, used the phrase “twinks” as a homophobic slur at the end of the panel
I have probably been to forty panels at five different cons now, and I have never witnessed a panelist being so actively cruel, rude, and downright unprofessional during a panel. It’s sad because Legacy Action Comics is the kind of small local venture I would normally like to support, but given his behavior, I want everyone to know exactly how unprofessional and misogynistic this man is. At the panel, they openly chastised the audience and essentially told them that the continuing portrayal of skimpily clothed women in comics was their fault, because they “didn’t do anything about it” and “money talks.” Well, I’m doing something about it, and I hope money does talk. If anyone has bought/heard of Legacy Action comics, please don’t buy from them any more-I know I don’t want my money going to support someone who thinks these behaviors and attitudes are acceptable, and I hope you don’t want yours going their either. It’s sad because Legacy Action Comics is, by all appearances, the kind of small, local business I would normally go out of my way to support, but through his boorish and misogynistic behavior, Andrew Mark absolutely shot that in the foot.
I will probably be posting some more of the arguments I heard at this panel, and dissecting their fallaciousness, later, but for now I just wanted to get this out there and let people know that this kind of behavior is not acceptable and (hopefully) will not be tolerated by the geek community.
I am resistant to believing anyone’s apology and I think all those people who moralize OH YOU GOTTA FORGIVE THAT AWFUL FUCKWAD NO MATTER WHAT BECAUSE YOU’RE THE BIGGER PERSON can go fuck themselves. I also have come to loathe that quote “holding a grudge is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.” Because that’s fucking bullshit!
I think it’s possible to move on without ever forgiving or forgetting.
I’m pretty sure it’s basic self-preservation to remember who treats you poorly…
Because once someone proves they will act on a desire/impulse to hurt people, that capability doesn’t suddenly disappear once they say “sorry.”
I’m writing Vanity and I’m kind of fussing over how forgiveness is written.
Because Louvel has a lot to apologize for…
And now I’m wondering if I want to make the comic a smidge longer to add in a scene or two to show Louvel proving to his younger brother he’s genuinely committed to changing.
Because it’s probably a big jump between Louvel proving he can be decent to one person he likes to Louvel proving he can be decent to his subjects and his court and his diplomats.
JESUS FUCK I’M OVERTHINKING BEAUTY AND THE BEAST REALLY GODDAMN HARD.
I am by nature a very vengeful person.
And yet I forgive.
But I never forget.
I think there’s a level of forgiveness that you have to give people, not where you are really telling them what they did is alright, but where you, for yourself, simply cease to care about that section of your life that this event happened in and don’t let it colour how you act towards them or towards others.
But forget? No, no I never forget, and sometimes forgiveness comes at a price. That price may be that you never speak to this person again, that price may be that you inform everyone you know what this person did to you and why they are not permitted in your personal social circle again, that price may be that you will eternally treat them differently and give them no preferential treatment or kindness ever again because you may have forgiven them but no one said forgiveness had to erase what was done and you don’t ever have to forget.
Forgiveness simply means what they did no longer affects YOU. Not that it doesn’t affect them.
idk that’s just me.